I can tell you that the husband-hiding-wads-of-cash scenario happens a lot more in Hollywood than it does in real life. Still, it does happen. So how do you know? And what should you do?

I want to make something really clear. I have a great relationship with lawyers, specifically family-law or divorce attorneys. We work together to help women like you get the best possible settlement.

If you’re reading this, and you have a pet, I know you’re not thinking of that little critter as a “thing” or an “asset,” let alone one that can be divided, King Solomon-like, in the event of a divorce!

Divorcing women ask me all the time: “Why would you advise me not to keep the house, post-divorce??” I could write a book on this. I’ll spare you that much reading here. But I’ll give you the highlights, so you can make your own decision.

“I think my husband is spending a lot and not telling me. Is this cause for concern?” Short answer: Yes.

This is another one of those I-see-it-every-day scenarios. Everyone you know—friends, family, co-workers, people from church—will be giving you advice regarding your divorce, including the financial side. Every one of them will be well-intentioned. They have your best interests at heart.

Are women ever blind-sided by the prospect of divorce? Unfortunately, yes. Certainly, no woman should ever get blind-sided by divorce. Aren’t there warning signs? And—topic of this article—if you get blind-sided, what should you do?

Is your husband hiding money? This is a common fear amojng women facing divorce.

Is it too late to start talking about retirement? Quick answer: No.